The discovery or disclosure of compulsive sexual behaviour by one partner in a relationship can be devastating and traumatic. Partners can feel they’ve been ‘living a lie’, shocked and disempowered, and that they cannot trust themselves or anyone else any more. In the immediate aftermath of discovery, it can feel impossible to know what to do. It is often hard to access appropriate support as high levels of shame and trauma can make it feel impossible to share what you are going through with family and friends.
We offer guidance, support and containment for partners through this difficult time. Individual therapy provides a space to make sense of the many complex and conflicting thoughts and emotions partners feel, and, over time, find their feet again. Our weekly psychotherapy group for partners also provides a safe space to explore and address the impact of this relational trauma. We use group process and psycho-educational support to help people regain and learn new strategies of self-care and move into a much more empowered place.
The decision to undertake couples therapy is a momentous one, especially in the wake of compulsive sexual behaviour. We offer an individualized and carefully managed treatment plan to couples who wish to undertake therapeutic relationship work. Our programme integrates individual, group and couple psychotherapy, psycho-education, and aftercare.
On-going individual therapy maintains a support structure for each partner while couple therapy is commenced with experienced relationship therapists who understand the impact of sexual compulsivity upon your relationship. Couples therapy is undertaken once there has been substantial individual and group work undertaken and you have the resources to begin thinking about the future – whether that is focusing on rebuilding your relationship or exploring alternative options.